raistlin wrote:I really do think that the informality and immediacy of the internet has, at least in part, caused the downfall of basic good manners.
I was having a good rummage around earlier today on a forum I only occasionally visit and was disgusted with the number of questions, demands for information, demands for assistance etc. which all shared the commonality of not having the word PLEASE anywhere in the posts.
When I were a lad, if the word was absent when I asked either of my parents for something, I was simply ignored. It didn't take long for me to realise my error but invariably, an apology was required before I made progress by using the magic word.
Needless to say, I don't react to any of that sort of post. Unfortunately, a lot of people do, thereby perpetuating the assumption that it is acceptable to demand rather than ask.
I wonder whether the phrase THANK YOU ever crosses the minds of the demanding.
I do not have a problem in being reminded the common courtesies which you have been writing about. Should I address you as Raistlin or Paul, given we have never met? Getting back to your statement. I remember when I were a lad, we always had to say please and thank you, no swearing was permitted and only once did I test this with my Dad at the age of 15. I used the F word and it was the last time I ever used it in the house. I have been to some of the meets down south and the F word is mentioned in certain quarters in every other sentence. I am not here to judge, as there are others who will do that. I have not tested the swear filter but I guess it will kick in should I try. The lack of manners which you have described had the profound effect of leaving you feeling disgusted after you been to a forum. If someone forgets to write please or thank you I am not disgusted, but then I am not squeaky clean either.
In light of your comments and experiences, what is your take on this forum in terms of the title of your post? I have a few other angles about this issue but for now I have said enough.
Thanks for listening.